The internet is backing a woman who kicked her niece in favor of her teenage daughter

A mother receives support from other Reddit users after deciding to kick her niece out of her home.

Shared by u/throwaway2948928, the post, posted November 2 on the “Am I the A******” forum, garnered over 7,000 interactions.

In her post, u/throwaway2948928 said her 17-year-old daughter, “Amelia,” lives with her, along with Amelia’s one-year-old grandson, “Owen,” and the father of the child. child, “Raymond”, aged 17.

She also allowed her 19-year-old niece “Stephanie” to live with her, but noticed the mean way Stephanie treated Amelia.

Although u/throwaway2948928 spoke to Stephanie about how she was treating Amelia, the issues continued, leading to him kicking Stephanie out of her house. u/throwaway2948928 has since faced backlash from other family members.

Insight from an expert

Kevin Mimms, LMFT, said Newsweek that u/throwaway2948928 did the right thing when speaking with Stephanie.

“If she added anything, it would be to clearly state the reasons for the request – expectations of respect and kindness – and the consequences – you can’t live here if you don’t meet those expectations,” he said. he declares.

Mimms added that if the family reaches a point where u/throwaway2948928 wants to work things out with others, they need to remember why Stephanie was kicked out, to begin with — to protect her daughter.

“If she wants to smooth things over, maybe say something about her still being an important member of her family and loving her,” he said.

If Stephanie pushes back, u/throwaway2948928 should maintain that boundary of asking for kindness to her daughter and her family.

“At this point, the responsibility for reconciliation falls on the niece,” Mimms said. “Humility and contrition lead to forgiveness, while callousness prevents it.”

DAD?

In his post, u/throwaway2948928 said his sister asked if it was possible for Stephanie to move in with her. Because it is difficult to find accommodation, u/throwaway2948928 accepted.

“I immediately noticed that Stephanie was weird about Amelia being a teenage mother,” said u/throwaway2948928. “She was making jokes in bad taste and I immediately pulled her aside and told her [her] that I would not tolerate any kind of teasing. »

She added that when she hired a tutor for Amelia and Raymond, Stephanie said they wouldn’t need one if they were “in charge”.

u/throwaway2948928 said he noticed Stephanie also taking clothes from Amelia without asking.

“When she moved in, I told her that at home, we asked permission before [taking] other people’s stuff so I was pretty annoyed by that,” u/throwaway2948928 said.

Although Amelia asked for the shirt to be returned, u/throwaway2948928 said Stephanie refused, saying she didn’t need it because she didn’t fit in it. u/throwaway2948928 said the shirt was meant to serve as motivation to lose the weight she gained during her pregnancy.

“We had a huge argument that resulted in me packing her bags and calling her mom to come pick her up,” u/throwaway2948928 said.

Reddit reacts

Although she faced backlash from her family, Reddit users came to her defense.

The lead comment said that u/throwaway2948928 should suggest that one of the other critical family members should host Stephanie.

“Anyone who upsets you about this can go ahead and volunteer to give Stephanie free room and board,” another commenter wrote. “You tried and all she did was attack your immediate family with name calling and theft.”

“I know you care about helping your family, but make sure they don’t mistake your kindness for weakness,” one Reddit user wrote. “If the roles had been reversed, would they have opened their doors for you or your daughter?”

Newsweek contacted u/throwaway2948928 for further comment. We were unable to verify the details of this case.

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